The Best Team Ever
Today someone asked me what was the best team I had ever been on. I admit, I didn’t have an answer on the tip of my tongue and had to really process what that meant to me. I process best when I’m writing. As I jotted thoughts and emotions, a clear picture developed. The best team I’ve ever been on is my family. Odd, I’d not really thought about family as a team before. We certainly never wore jerseys with team Root on them, and heaven knows what it’s like to get our large extended/blended family together in the same place on the same day, let alone the same time.
As I captured my thoughts, I kept circling back to an illness I had in 2006. A rather pesky knock-you-on-your-butt time in my life where I was totally dependent on family to care for me. It started with a heat stroke, while on a family outing. I remember being in the hospital and my 25 year old son combing my hair and telling me “I know this is important to you.” Hmmm, is this my vanity, or just what is this?
My illness lasted a little over three years and I learned lessons that will last a life time. As an individual I came to understand the value each person brings to the family. We respect each other as individuals, and we honor each other in ways each person prefers to be honored. I learned what it feels like for my voice to be heard, and have a keen understanding how important it is to hear my husband and children’s voice. Nothing teaches that lesson faster than not being able to string a series of words together in a clear sentence, but your mind is screaming in whole paragraphs. I learned how hard it is to receive acts of kindness. I did not deserve the generous outpouring of love and support my family and friends bestowed. But still they gave. I learned about loyalty and commitment. My teachabliltiy index was amped up and in overdrive.
The experience still gives me cause to pause and think about family values, what do they mean, and why they are important. Values are guides. You cannot have a worthy end unless you have a worthy means. My values may be different than yours. That’s just fine. The most important thing in life is to decide what’s most important. Start there.